The problem is that the victim of this crime can only be a victim if, in fact, she was either below the age of consent or an unwilling participant. Here, the person was neither.
And, no, we would not have waited for him to damage a real five-year-old. Instead, we would not have egged him on, and we would have spent our resources stopping people who were about to do something to real five-year-olds.
It's all fine and good to talk about preventing crimes that may end up happening. But we have to draw the line somewhere. For example, we don't cut out everybody's tongue just because he might one day use it for criminal speech inciting violence. I simply propose that the line be drawn at reality: real victims. This is where we draw the line in most areas of law.
And, yes, I understand I wouldn't be charged with blowing up a building. I'd be charged with intending to blow up a building. Then they'd find out the building didn't even exist, and neither would the charge. Here, they're charging him with an intention. When we go so far as to prosecute people for their intentions, rather than their actions, (in conspiracy to commit murder, for example), courts usually require that the state state specifically who the victim would have been (e.g., the person against whom the potential murderers were conspiring).
This isn't about questioning the motives of people who employ, or support, this attempt to reduce child abuse. It's about questioning the effectiveness and the justice of it.
and in this case wouldn't the say it was the person who was lying about their age?
it is a grey area, to be sure, and it needs work.
I have no doubt that this man would have found another 'victim' had he not been caught this way. It is not a perfect system, or way obviously, but I will not lose any sleep about his arrest and incarceration at all.
I'm not sure about your first paragraph. I just don't understand it. Can you reword, explain, please?
To your second paragraph: this is a difference between us. You have no doubts about predicting the future of a single individual, whom, I assume, you've never met and not read that many words—which I find an impressive stance, to say the least.
I cannot condone giving our future-predicting resources first to dealing with imaginary children and only second to dealing with real ones. In these stings, that is what's happening.
I seriously would be happier if our society took all the resources used in these stings and instead put them into dealing with people who go after real children, and people who actually have done things to real children, and to educating real children and ... just real everybody ... about how to watch out for this stuff ahead of time, how to do one's best to avoid it, and how to deal with it if these horrific situations come along.
Sometimes I wonder how much better children would be in dealing with potential sexual abusers if (1) the kids were well taught about dealing with potentially abusive people and (2) the kids were taught about sex.
When someone is doing things to you that feel uncomfortable, isn't it easier to deal with those actions if you at least have a clue what's going on, as opposed to just thinking "What's happening to me? I don't like this! I don't understand!"
Not that this is directly related; but it's something else about this topic that just disgusts me. I have a cousin who, starting when she was about 3, was repeatedly penetrated by the son (about 13, I think) of her babysitter. Years later, when these events had long since stopped and those involved had dealt with the justice system, my cousin asked her mother what sex was. My aunt's answer? That it was what that boy had done to her. Now, yes, technically, when he put his penis in her vagina, it was sex (among other things). But I'm just disgusted that my aunt chose to define sex for her daughter, the first time she ever asked about it, as (1) something that you do to someone else, and (2) something that 13-year-olds do to 3-year-olds. What a great way to start your kid's sex education, eh? And she left it at that!
*not read that many words about
He responded too, and crossed state lines to abuse a 5 year old girl. Regardless if she existed or not, he thought she did, and came to abuse her.
What more proof do you want? I just don't understand how there's even a question here. I don't get it.
How do you propose the law to find child molesters on the street?
And I agree there's a lot that needs to happen to educate children on stranger safety and what not, but that doesn't help those poor children who are being pimped out or whatever, and don't have anywhere to turn. And it does happen, and it's horrific.
And your Aunt was totally in the wrong though. That poor child. :.(
I know I'm jumping in mid debate here.. but comparing cutting out peoples tongues to prevent them from saying something we don't like is different then arresting a man who flew to another state to rape what he thought ws a very existant five year old who he wanted to be "gentle" with..