'Don't sweat the small stuff', would be a good starting point.
Save those nags for when it really matters!
the basics - truth, patience, love, sense of humor, and I imagine it helps to be creative in the sack.
The ideal wife would come with a money-back gaurantee, or at the very least an exchange program. But apparently that's too much to ask of most mail-order bride services.
Love, respect, comprehension and sincerity.
At least it's what I'm going to give to my groom!!!
My fiance and I have this list of relationship "c's": commitment, communication, consdieration, copulation...I think there might be more, I'll add if I think of any. :)
lol. Awesome. ;) I love that you have copulation. Cute.
The basis of my 17-year marriage is comfort. We're comfortable with each other. We're accepting of one another. We let the "romance" die long ago because it was too exhausting to try and maintain the same intensity that we started our relationship with. He doesn't make my heart sing. I don't count the moments until I can be with him again. I don't hang on his every word and gesture. But damn, he makes me laugh, and he's a fantastic father, and he gets me, and we just fit in all the right ways.
*nod* I think that kind of love is healthy and lasts much longer then the burning desire, that we start with.. but I don't know if it's possible to maintain it, really.
I think I've met many guys who add "make [insert favorite dish] really well and really often". This is why I've learned to cook a lot of things lately.
Ooof. I'm a terrible cook.
Learn to negotiate well. Like a freaking FBI agent.
lol, seriously. Negotiations are something I do pretty well, but I'm still learning.
Don't try to change your husband - it doesn't work. And talk to each other! Don't hold back if something pisses you off, let him know. (in a human to human kinda way, not a banshee to victim kinda way) Otherwise, he will keep doing it and not understand why, 2 years later, you snap and lose your mind over the fact that he puts the mail on the end table rather than the coffee table or something. Communication is Key.
2007-07-27 11:45 pm (UTC)
a good wife is someone who tests store brand coffee (anyone else remember that ad? lmfao. i looked at this and that's immediately what i thought of.)
LOL. You know I remember it. It was like my favorite thing I've posted. haha. ;)
LOL! I love you! Thank you for finding this! Fantastic!
No sex strikes! Resorting to that kind of brute force is a dirty way to get what you want.
Of course, this rule is also dependent on having a husband who listens to reason...
yeah . . . i haven't been in the situation, but i can't imagine wanting to have sex with somene i'm really pissed at
i wouldn't call it a "sex strike," i'd just call it normal
Anyone who's willing to accept your kids as their own. lol
Love and love is all.
Everything else should be 50/50.