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*blinkblink* [Nov. 13th, 2006|01:25 pm]
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Very bizarre. Crazy "angry white boy polka" .

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xbYUFyrafcI

And, ladies and gents.. what are your opinions of this?

HOW TO BE A GOOD WIFE
Home Economics High School Text Book, 1954
 
 
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
 
Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
 
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the home just before your husband arrives, gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.
 
Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
 
Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad he is home.
 
Some don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
 
Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
 
Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
 
The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
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[User Picture]From: lis4loser
2006-11-13 07:28 pm (UTC)
maybe in the 1950s?

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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-13 07:36 pm (UTC)
Well, that's definitely where it's from. Do you feel it is an appropriate way to run a marriage? Do you feel bad for those women that lived that way, or do you think they were happy?
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[User Picture]From: megthra
2006-11-13 08:01 pm (UTC)
Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.

So, when exactly do women get to be treated to... anything in this era? I'm glad I wasn't alive then. Ick.
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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-13 08:58 pm (UTC)
They got to be treated to their wifely duties! What an honor not to be a spinster. To have a family to serve.
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[User Picture]From: marguerlucy
2006-11-13 08:23 pm (UTC)
the "Do's" are okay, if they were followed by: "Husbands - please follow the above rules as well" ;)

the don'ts....are a load of crap lol.
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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-13 09:00 pm (UTC)
Exactly!!! I think marriage is a marriage.. A marriage of duty and responsibility in a basis of love, and that's how it should be.
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From: seamstressrusse
2006-11-13 08:43 pm (UTC)
I have some vintage etiquette and home manuals from the 50's, 30's, and 1910s. Though they are retrogressive in our sense, they weren't so blantely...weird. A Guide to Charm by, Helen Valentine, d.1938, even advocated: "Hair, like any other part of your body, should be washed when it is dirty." Yes, I agree. However, here's the next part that cracks me up: "If you live in an industrial center, where coal dust rules the waves, hair needs laundering once or twice a week." Once or twice a week is you live in an dirty area! I would say twice a day!!!
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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-13 09:00 pm (UTC)
LOL! WOW!!!!

Can you scan that page in? I would love to see that, and maybe post it. :)
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[User Picture]From: boiledhamster
2006-11-13 09:12 pm (UTC)
I would of had to stay single....
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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-13 09:19 pm (UTC)
Certainly not every couple followed this.
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[User Picture]From: dolphin_on_rye
2006-11-13 09:38 pm (UTC)
cue: betty friedan (sp?)

i mean, i'm sure it worked for some . . .
but i agree with the above, it's doing actions like the "do's" for eachother that matter

i can definately understand why some mothers were terribly unhappy though
to not be able to use your own intellectual abilities and to be just a mirror for your husband, reflecting back what he wants to see, sounds not only awfully boring, but so unfulfilling
i mean, at least servants get paid
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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-13 09:52 pm (UTC)
Exactly.

Seems more like slavery. :(
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[User Picture]From: iseestarsinyou
2006-11-13 09:41 pm (UTC)
on the one hand, it does present a nice home to come home to. and if it were equal opportunity (ie, men encouraged to do it for women as well), i don't think it'd be such bad advice.

on the other hand...it's typical fifties illusions of happiness. rock on vagina warriors.
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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-13 09:54 pm (UTC)
Precisely. I think it's great advice for a couple to follow together for the do's.
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[User Picture]From: aongeli
2006-11-13 10:07 pm (UTC)
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the home just before your husband arrives, gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.

WTF mates?

I know I feel better when my house is clean. I get more work done when I don't have 'picking up my room' as a procrastination measure. But how is DAILY dusting of the coffee table supposed to give me a lift?!!
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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-13 10:09 pm (UTC)
LOL! I know, seriously.
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[User Picture]From: sixstringcat
2006-11-13 10:22 pm (UTC)

...

I think my head will explode from reading that.
That's almost as bad as an old Christian Sex Manual.
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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-13 10:27 pm (UTC)

Re: ...

For real! I shoudl track one of those down!
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[User Picture]From: dominatrixcat
2006-11-13 10:34 pm (UTC)
I want a wife like that lol, it would make coming home a real pleasure instead of a chore, not having to make dinner or clean after work, wow, it must be nice. while i dont think its too bad, and it fits the time, i think everyone could use it constructively just not taking it to the extremes, because it does give good tips on make the home a more peaceful and relaxing place.
and i know people are probably going to give me a ration of shit for it, but i dont think it is all that bad, it was just taken to too much of an extreme in that period of time
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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-13 10:36 pm (UTC)
Do you think that this would be only for the wife to follow? Shouldn't this be for both parties of the marriage to follow to make a healthy living and loving environment, or do you believe in "traditional" wife roles?
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[User Picture]From: mystik00769
2006-11-13 11:01 pm (UTC)
k...I'm old fashioned. I know. Personally, that passage made me smile. Sorry feminists...that's the kind of life I'd like to live. Stay at home, take care of the kids, help with their homework, do the dishes, etc. Let the man go out and be the big money-maker. I don't go to the extent of not putting any value on my own feelings/stresses/etc, but I see no problem with being a SAHM and putting the responsibility on myself. Thank God for not having to go to work every day! (*sigh*....the one thing I miss about being married...)
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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-13 11:20 pm (UTC)
I just feel that the household, regardless of who's working and who isn't need to be the responsibility of both parents.

If you're beign a stay at home Mom ( As I was for a great deal of time) that's a full time job in itself. I think that cooking, and cleaning though should be a joint procedure. But it's all about each persons preferences. I'm not trying to be insulting to you at all, that's great that it's worked for you. Just letting you know where I'm coming from. :)
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From: fuzzywoolsocks
2006-11-13 11:15 pm (UTC)
Dare I ask the roles in the bedroom?

The passage is sad; it does not reflect the fact that every person and marriage is different. Also, it describes a two-dimensional wife; many people who find this passage of 'lovely domesticity' resonating with them would probably agree that the wife role, the woman's life, is an addendum onto the husband portrayed in the passage.

I think it's also worth stating that while this is nowhere near the role I would fill myself, I know several woman (and men, too) who find fulfillment in the housewife role- particular when kids are part of the family.

Interesting. Definitely not for me. And, definitely not something that I think should appear in a school textbook.
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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-13 11:32 pm (UTC)
I agree on all counts. The fact it was in a textbook just horrifies me. If it was in a Woman's World or Womans Day or Better Homes and Gardens of the day that would be acceptable, given the time frame and beliefs of that time.

And I too know many women who love the fullfillment of domestic life, but most of them like their husbands to pitch in too.
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[User Picture]From: saabisu
2006-11-13 11:41 pm (UTC)
I think I'm too modern for the whole attitude, but I think it's always nice to be so selfless for those we love. I am not a good cook, I don't organize well, and I don't want a kid that is my own for a while, but my boyfriend does work for me and I want to make him happy.

But yeah, in a textbook, that's fucked up. I would slap my daughter for reading that shit before she is old enough to marry. People let others guide them too much. I think relationships are inevitable, we need to make sure people get other things before that.
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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-14 12:04 am (UTC)
I agree it's great to be selfless for others, but it's nice when those others are selfless for you too. Otherwise I feel people can be easily taken advantage of.
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[User Picture]From: randomposting
2006-11-14 12:05 am (UTC)
lol!
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